Wife Subjective Planning To Husband’s Infidelity

Abstract

Having a happy family is the dream of every married couple, but what happens if one partner breaks the commitment and has an affair? The purpose of this study is to investigate how a wife's subjetive planning influences her husband's infidelity. This study used qualitative methods with a case study approach. The research subjects consisted of four subjects, such as the wives who were betrayed by their husbands. These four subjects are all Christian and domiciled in Ambon. This case study used the interview method and observation in collecting the data. The data analysis method used is the narration method, which refers to Reissman's theory, which consists of the stages of telling, transcribing, and analyzing. The result of the research showed that the subjects are actively involved in managing the internal and external demands through the coping strategy, which started with problem-focused coping to emotional-focused coping. The strategy change is done when the subjects' judgement of the "situation" at hand is out of their control until they carry out restructurisation internally. When the inner sources are felt to be inadequate and that the stress load is intense over a long period of time, the subjects tend to live their faith trust as a basis of hope to stay in the marriage while orienting their life for their children's well-being.